“Breaking Promises…”

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Shared by Kristina Smedley

“Breaking Promises..”

I despise when people break promises.
When they say they’ll do something, be somewhere, show up for you… and then they don’t.

They’ll call you back later… and don’t.

They’ll get that chore/task done today… but it’s still not done the next morning.

Plans are made together for the weekend… but are changed at the last minute.

When it happens once, OK fine.
Once it happens a few times, I’m done trusting this person to come through.

They’re no longer reliable.
No longer to be counted on.
They are not to be believed.

How can people live like this? To treat others this way?!?
It blows my mind!

But the better question I should be asking..
why don’t I hold myself to this same standard?!

And not in my commitment to upholding my promises to others (I think I do pretty well here), but in keeping my promises to myself.

I often let myself off way too easy, thinking of reasonable excuses for why I didn’t follow through.

Why I didn’t plan healthy meals for the week.

Why I didn’t go to bed on time so I’d have enough energy the next day.

Why I didn’t start writing my book when I had the time and energy to do so.

Making the excuse that I get bored with the same old workouts, so have to change it up a lot.

Being non-committal to routines that I find boring.

This list could go on and on.
Something started, then stopped.
Or never even started.

Commitments and promises I’ve made to myself at one point or another, and then broken when the going got tough, boring (my biggest challenge), or something else bright and flashy caught my attention.

To truly be a person of integrity, it requires keeping promises to others AND to myself.

So, as I’m resetting my commitments right now as a new mom, INTEGRITY is my focus.

Integrity in my commitments to others.
Integrity in my commitments to myself – in mind, body, business, and relationships.
Integrity in aligning to my principles.

And honestly, I’m looking forward to this and the growth and satisfaction that will come from not quitting on myself.

(StoryAthlete Team – GRIT Jan 2020, here I come!!! 😲🙃 )

 

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