“Buried in Clothes…”

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Shared by Kristina Smedley

“Buried in Clothes…”

I can’t take it anymore.

It’s absolutely overwhelming to have clothes piled up in my closet that I need to hang up.
More clothes, nicely folded, in the laundry basket that need put away.

Overflowing drawers.
A crammed closet.

And still, nothing I want to wear.

I’m looking at all these clothes, seeing things I’ve never worn.
Seeing other things that I used to love but haven’t worn in years.

“I’ll wear them again one day.”

No, I won’t. I haven’t been.
Why would that suddenly change?

I see all this wasted money, sitting in clothes that really don’t matter.

I used to love looking at Pinterest for new outfit ideas.
Wanting to have lots of options.
To wear a different outfit every day.

After all, what if people noticed that I was wearing the same thing!
Well, they don’t notice.
No one cares.

Like so many things that hold me back, it’s just my inner critic trying to make sure that I’m “perfect” and always perceived that way. Trying to keep me “safe” – from what, I don’t know.

Having so many options just adds to the confusion.
The overwhelming choices create an overwhelmed mind.

And it’s a waste of my energy to select the perfect outfit, to feed my inner critic’s confidence that I need to have a unique outfit every day.

There is nothing gained from being “perfect”.
Just like there is nothing gained from having the perfect outfit.
Or a closet filled with things that used to seem important to me.

As Marie Condo, author of The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up, teaches us, “The space in which we live should be for the person we are becoming now, not for the person we were in the past.”

So, today is ‘clothes donation’ day.
I don’t need a million options.
I need less choices and a decluttered mind.

I used to be a person who’s inner critic had a stronghold over many parts of my life, but am becoming a person liberated from its grasp.

 

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